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[Image: “About the Size of It,” by John E. Simpson. (Photo shared here under a Creative Commons License; for more information, see this page<\/a> at <\/em>RAMH.)]<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

From whiskey river’s commonplace book<\/a><\/em> (italicized stanzas):<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

To Begin With, the Sweet Grass<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                             1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Will the hungry ox stand in the field and not eat
    of the sweet grass?
Will the owl bite off its own wings?
Will the lark forget to lift its body in the air or
    forget to sing?
Will the rivers run upstream?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Behold, I say\u2014behold
the reliability and the finery and the teachings
    of this gritty earth gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                             2.
Eat bread and understand comfort.
Drink water, and understand delight.
Visit the garden where the scarlet trumpets
    are opening their bodies for the hummingbirds
who are drinking the sweetness, who are
    thrillingly gluttonous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For one thing leads to another.
Soon you will notice how stones shine underfoot.
Eventually tides will be the only calendar you believe in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And someone’s face, whom you love, will be as a star
both intimate and ultimate,
and you will be both heart-shaken and respectful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And you will hear the air itself, like a beloved, whisper:
oh, let me, for a while longer, enter the two
beautiful bodies of your lungs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                             3.
The witchery of living
is my whole conversation
with you, my darlings.
All I can tell you is what I know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Look, and look again.
This world is not just a little thrill for the eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s more than bones.
It’s more than the delicate wrist with its personal pulse.
It’s more than the beating of the single heart.
It’s praising.
It’s giving until the giving feels like receiving.
You have a life\u2014just imagine that!
You have this day, and maybe another, and maybe
   still another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                             4.
Someday I am going to ask my friend Paulus,
the dancer, the potter,
to make me a begging bowl
which I believe
my soul needs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And if I come to you,
to the door of your comfortable house
with unwashed clothes and unclean fingernails,
will you put something into it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I would like to take this chance.
I would like to give you this chance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                             5.
We do one thing or another; we stay the same, or we
   change.
Congratulations, if
   you have changed.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                             6.
Let me ask you this.
Do you also think that beauty exists for some
   fabulous reason?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, if you have not been enchanted by this adventure\u2014
   your life\u2014
what would do for you?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                             7.
What I loved in the beginning, I think, was mostly myself.
Never mind that I had to, since somebody had to.
That was many years ago.
Since then I have gone out from my confinements,
   though with difficulty.
I mean the ones that thought to rule my heart.
I cast them out, I put them on the mush pile.
They will be nourishment somehow (everything is nourishment
somehow or another).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I have become the child of the clouds, and of hope.
I have become the friend of the enemy, whoever that is.
I have become older and, cherishing what I have learned,
I have become younger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And what do I risk to tell you this, which is all I know?
Love yourself. Then forget it. Then, love the world.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

(Mary Oliver [source<\/a><\/em>])<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From elsewhere:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

Stop and listen to the ragged-edged beech leaves, pale specters of the winter forest. They are chattering ghosts, clattering amid the bare branches of the other hardwoods. Wan light pours through their evanescence and burnishes them to gleaming. Deep in the gray, sleeping forest, whole beech trees flare up into whispering creatures made of trembling gold.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop and consider the deep hollows of the persimmon\u2019s bark, the way the tree has carved its own skin into neat rectangles of sturdy protection. See how the lacy lichens have found purchase in the channels, sharing space in the hollows. Tree and lichen belong to one another. Neither is causing the other any harm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop and peer at the hummingbird nest, smaller than your thumb, in the crook of the farthest reach of an oak branch. Remember the whir of hummingbird wings. Remember the green flash of hummingbird light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop and notice how closely the human teenagers resemble the whistling, clicking, preening starlings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop and contemplate the hollow-boned ducks floating on the water like leaves. Like deadwood. Turtles, too, drift in the sunny water. See the way the bones in the turtle\u2019s webbed foot resemble the bones in the duck\u2019s webbed foot. Hold open your hand. Trace the outline of your fingers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop and think for a time about kinship. Think for a long time about kinship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The world lies before you, a lavish garden. However hobbled by waste, however fouled by graft and tainted by deception, it will always take your breath away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We were never cast out of Eden. We merely turned from it and shut our eyes. To return and be welcomed, cleansed and redeemed, we are only obliged to look.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

(Margaret Renkle [source<\/a><\/em>])<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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